Scams, Lies and Alternative Facts

I’m sure you’ve all seen and heard the unrelenting reports of “false news” or “alternative facts.”

(Brace yourself, this is post is full of “quotation marks.”)

This week I’m reminded about all the scams circling right now, most recently the “can you hear me?” call that you’ll receive, and then an onslaught of unauthorized purchases on your credit card. It’s been on the news, the radio… my husband even heard about it on Howard Stern, but just because it’s everywhere doesn’t necessarily mean it’s true.

I learned about snopes.com years ago. It’s a website devoted to investigating rumors, urban legends, folklore – that kind of thing. I use it to check if there really is a Nigerian Prince who wants to send me money (there isn’t), if the Geneva Convention will protect my Facebook page’s privacy (it won’t), or if that chart I’ve seen on Facebook saying the 7 countries President Trump has banned from the US really haven’t had any deadly terrorists – and all the deadly terrorist attacks have been from countries that are still free to travel and immigrate to the U.S. (partially true).

My mother-in-law was sold tens-of-thousands of dollars’ worth of vinyl siding because the sales man told her it would make her house warmer and the “sale wasn’t going to last.” Now, I don’t know if there really was a sale, but I do know her house would’ve been warmer if she’d turn the heat up past 62°.

This got me thinking about all the scams that there have been, still are, and why they’re so successful. Let’s take a look at what makes up a good scam. I looked on-line (yeah, I know) and here are 5 things that stood out to me:

  1. Inadvertent ignorance. We don’t take the time to actually investigate the scam and check sources. Just because it’s on TV, or on the internet, or even in print doesn’t mean it’s true.
  1. Herd mentality. “If all these other people say and think it’s true then it has to be – no questions asked.” See #1.
  1. Distraction. Whether we’re distracted by time (you have to make a decision right now!), phones or just life, being distracted makes it easier for us to miss important cues and we might make a snap judgment.
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  1. Dishonesty. If we’re more likely to engage in dishonest behavior – we’re more likely to take risks, and less likely to report it when we’re taken advantage of.
  1. Need or greed. What we want makes us vulnerable. Whether we’re greedy and want to make more money and fall prey to a “too good to be true” opportunity, or the “grandson” calling grandma for some quick cash because he wrecked his car, or needs medical care, or school books. Grandma’s an easy target because she wants to help her loved ones.

Scams work. Whether the scam is an outright lie or just partially true, our best defense is to investigate both sides for ourselves and then make a decision based on actual facts. Did the Queen really say she could run President Trump through with her sword? No. She was reported to have said so by The Daily Mash. A satirical website who posts in its about section: “The Daily Mash is a satirical website which publishes spoof articles, i.e. it is all made up and not intended, in any way whatsoever to be taken as factual. Glad we’ve got that sorted.”  But how many people actually check the source?

This week, my reader, I ask that you think for yourself.  Whether you want to know if that medical university will really pay you $50,000 for donating a testicle, or if a small child was really handcuffed at Dulles for the temporary immigration restriction, investigate the truth before you repeat it. Check the facts are actual facts and not “alternative facts,” and check the sources. Don’t be swayed by biased, satirical, or prejudiced information.

Oh, I checked on that phone scam, and whether you trust snopes or another source, you should too.

P.S.: Snopes was “snoped” a number of years back by people claiming it’s run by “very Democratic” proprietors,” and “lied to discredit a State Farm agent.” Like most rumors, there is partial truth: They did report that a State Farm agent had to take down a sign that didn’t comply with State Farm’s policy of not endorsing candidates. The e-mailer reports that the Mikkelson’s didn’t call the agent, Mr. Mikkelson says that’s true – they sent him an e-mail that the agent never responded too. See, partial truth: it’s true they didn’t call him, but we’re lead to believe they didn’t even try to contact him.  And as to their political affiliation: Mrs. Mikkelson is Canadian and cannot vote or contribute to any political party, Mr. Mikkelson has never joined a party, worked on a campaign, and his sole “political preference” is to go out on election day and vote.

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The Power of Sisterhood

Yeah, I know this last week has seen much media about the women’s marches. I’ve seen posts supporting them and posts shaming them, but this week I was personally reminded about the importance and power of “sisters.” As a woman I’m a step-mom, mom, wife, ex-wife, aunt, niece, sister, daughter and even the Grand-Mel to three beautiful little girls. The relationships I have as all of those things are important, but this week I wanted to talk about the importance and power of sisterhood.

I had my hair done this week and it’s typical that I have it done with one of my “sisters” and this time another sister from the tribe came with wine to visit while we had our hair done. I love that time with my friends, and was delighted to be able to spend that time with them.  When I texted The Best Husband Ever and asked if he minded if I went and had a glass of wine after hair with my friend so I could have “Sandra-time,” he said “Didn’t you just see her yesterday?”

Well, yes, technically I did see her, but I had the 12 year old and we were in public with a bunch of people all around us.  I wanted time with her where we could just talk: talk about things that were important, things that weren’t, sad things, happy things, things that were funny… whatever. That time I have with her is important to me and my well-being. It’s just a different dynamic when others are around.

Sisterhood can literally mean the brother/sister or sister/sister relationship, a strong friendship, or more Amazonian-tribe kind of relationship. The bond that women form is unique, remarkable and important. There are many things that are important, but today I chose the ones that resonate the most:

Sisters are empowering. Life can be hard sometimes, but having an unwavering support system makes it doable. Sisters are the best for unconditional love and support, and having someone standing behind you saying “You can do it!” is amazing.

Sisters mean trust – no matter what. Surrounding yourself with women you can say anything to creates an unbreakable bond. Sometimes you don’t want to tell the world about a secret, an insecurity, or a perceived flaw, but in the Sisterhood Tribe you can rest easy knowing your secrets are safe. You will be loved unconditionally for who you are – warts and all.
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Sisters are multigenerational. Sisters are all ages. I had sisters as a child, teen, and I have sisters now.  They’re not all the same ones, but there’s a bond between all of them that still exists. As my daughter grows and becomes a woman I feel our bond changing.  I see those same qualities of adult sisterhood beginning to emerge and I love it.

Women are powerful. We’re lovers, we’re caregivers, we’re loyal, we’re tender, we’re fierce, and we’ll fight to protect our own. You’ll find no more ferocious a battle than a woman fighting for who or what she loves (remember that mama bear you were warned about as a kid?).  This week, my reader, I encourage you to remember the bond you have with a sister (Yes, men should remember their sisters too. We love and protect our men like no other.) and take the values to heart.  Love fiercely, lift up your fellow man, support and inspire, critique with love, and cultivate those values in others and your children.

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Intolerable Tolerances

Last week I wrote about the importance of tolerance: how there is so much hate and intolerance in this world and how we need to bring more love and respect into it. This week I thought I’d explore the other side of that coin: how too much tolerance is just as awful. Sometimes it’s ok to be intolerant, for example:

1. Don’t tolerate hate. Here’s a video (Click here to watch it. *Warning: harsh language) that was taken at a Kentucky JC Penny Store. The video shows a customer paying for her belongings, and when her friend brings her a couple additional items of clothing the woman behind her starts yelling and swearing at the women. She yells racial slurs and publicly scolds them, shouting they should go back to where they came from and they must be on welfare and everyone there paid for their purchases – due to their ethnicity. The angry woman didn’t know them, didn’t know their circumstances, but started rudely and loudly berating them – and people tolerated her hatred.

At one point the store clerk asks her to watch her language, but no one tells her to stop. The customers tolerate her rudeness and intolerance and allow her to continue bullying a complete stranger. Her behavior should not be tolerated.

2. Don’t tolerate “settling.” We stay in jobs we hate and relationships that are toxic because “it’s really not that bad.” We think so little of ourselves that we believe we’re not worth that raise, or worth being treated well by our lovers. Usually this doesn’t happen overnight. Situations change and deteriorate slowly and we learn to tolerate bad behavior: bosses who never listen or support us, or lovers who make us believe how they treat us is what we deserve. We stop challenging ourselves to do better and settle for mediocrity.

Now I’m not saying that you should never be happy with what you have, it’s essential to be grateful and thankful, but that doesn’t mean resigning yourself to less just because your self-worth has been lowered. Maybe take a page out of Andy Grammar’s book and see your situation with “Fresh Eyes.” (Check out his super cool video here and be sure to watch for his message at the end). If you’re in a toxic relationship, flip it and look at it as if it was your daughter’s relationship. Would you tolerate her being treated that way?
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There are two sides to everything, including tolerance.  This week, my reader, I encourage you to demand more from yourself – work towards that goal knowing you deserve it. Demand people treat you, as well as others, with respect. It’s good to be tolerant of others and to be respectful of their differences of opinion, but this week I challenge you to be intolerant of rudeness, mediocrity, and ungratefulness.   Try it and see what a difference it makes!

My thoughts are my own, but my pictures are generally found on Pinterest (you can find anything there!). If you like what I write, please share with your friends or someone you think would like it! I’d love it if you follow me on Facebook (Melissa Gale), Instagram (write2unpack), or Twitter (@write2unpack). If you have any topics you’d like to talk about, reach out to me at write2unpack@gmail.com. Oh, hey, and if you sign up to follow me you’ll never miss a post!