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To Self-Publish or Not to Self-Publish – Guest Post

Thanksgiving is here. I try to be thankful everyday and practice “an attitude of gratitude,” and although this is the month to give thanks, things at work tend to crank up and the stress of coordinating family dinner always looms.

That’s why this week I’m thankful for a friend.  I met Ellie a few years back at a writing conference, and knew right away she was amazing. Smart, funny, and also a writer of sci-fi romance and erotica. We kept in touch and when I approached her about writing a post for my blog she graciously agreed, offering me a small reprieve from the chaos. She’s currently the author of 2 books: Population and Saltlands, with more in the works. Please enjoy her journey so far and be sure to check out both of her books. Oh! Don’t miss out on the amazing free (did I mention it’s free?) guide on self-publishing she’s offering!

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To self-publish or not to self-publish? That is the (difficult) question… 

Elizabeth Stephens, author of Population and Saltlands

In the world today, there are so many different options for writers it’s difficult to know where to begin. You have a story and maybe, if you’re lucky, you’ve even managed to finish it! What next? Do I self-publish? Do I try to go traditional? Do I work with an indie press? These are all questions that I asked myself after the completion of my first sci-fi romance novel, Population, and all of these are excellent options for different people depending on your ambition and what you hope to get out of the process.

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The following is a short account of my experiences in publishing and the decision I made to work with an indie press for the release of Population and then the subsequent decision to self-publish the sequel to the book, Saltlands, a year later.
Going traditional…if you can
I began writing at the age of eleven, namely in horror and science fiction. Since then I’ve added fantasy, romance, and erotica to my repertoire, and when I was eighteen I did something I never had before: I finally finished a manuscript! For me, getting started is easy, but finding the end is seconds short of impossible. Immediately, in the wake of the Twilight/fantasy romance whirlwind, I drafted my query letters and submitted to agents. A few bites here and there, but everything in the end resulted in rejection.
Traditional publishing is a multi-tiered process that begins with getting an agent, and then an editor at a publishing house, to sign on your book. As I have never made it to step one, my journey down this road ends here. This is what led me to an independent press.
Going indie…if you dare  
Five years and about two dozen unfinished stories later, I drafted and completed my second novel: Population. At the same time I completed this novel – and I do mean the day of – I met a publisher through connections. She had just started an indie press and wanted to add my newest manuscript to her list – I was ecstatic! Like working with any start up, it was not a seamless journey. Independent presses vary drastically across the board and, of the authors I’ve known, each experience has been wildly different. Although varied, they generally have tended to share these similar facets:
  • Authors have a lot more autonomy over their work. I was able to work with the cover artist directly to create the exact (incredible!) cover I wanted.
  • Authors tend to make more in royalties. I don’t, unfortunately, but I know other authors that make more than the industry average.
  • Authors don’t have to pay to get their books produced. If anyone attempts to charge you a fee they are not a reputable company!
  • Authors still may not have complete control over the quality and distribution of their books. Some indie presses don’t have the resources to provide the editorial services of a traditional press. I only had one round of editing rather than the traditional three (developmental, line editing, and proofreading) and had to do a lot of last minute edits myself. This resulted in a few typos in the first edition.
  • Having a publisher can give authors an additional level of ‘prestige’.
Some feel that this helps get books into bookstores and libraries. While I have enjoyed answering the question “Do you have a publisher?” with the affirmative, I have not found it to be more difficult getting a self-published book into a bookstore or a library – so long as you have your LCCN, are registered with a reputable distributor, and have your book correctly priced (see the link below for my free guide on how to self-publish for additional details)
These are just a few of my experiences with an indie press, and because I am such a perfectionist and a control freak, it was these experiences that led me down the road of self-publishing.
Going solo…if you choose
Self-publishing has been my favorite of the three options because it was the least stressful and gave me complete and total autonomy on the compilation, design, and distribution of my book. I could not be more proud of Saltlands, my first self-published novel – though I know it won’t be the last. I will say however, that to self-publish a book correctly, it will cost you some cash. I, for example, spent roughly $1000 to produce Saltlands, and this did not include any marketing, which is a whole bag of worms in itself and is TERRIBLE regardless of which of the three options you go with.

As I began to try to self-publish my book, the first thing I noticed was that there were very few FREE resources for people looking to self-publish both print and digital books. What I wanted was a step-by-step guide for how to get my book out there and unable to find one, I created this Free (mini) Guide to Self-Publishing. This guide provides step-by-step instructions from the moment you complete your manuscript through to its distribution and covers: everything from getting your ISBN, LCCN and barcodes to converting your completed PDF into an EPUB and registering with a distributor (I used Ingram Sparks). This guide is not a guarantee that your self-published book will turn out exactly how you wanted or that you will have the same experience I did. This guide is simply my attempt to provide a free resource to other writers to get them started and do what I can to fill an existing gap.

Don’t give up!
No matter what you are trying to accomplish with your publishing career, keep on writing! And one last word of advice: no matter which option you choose, DO NOT pay someone to publish a book for you unless they are a traditional publisher or an indie press with perks. Self-publishing is not hard. If you’ve written the manuscript, then the hard part is over! Well, at least until you get to the marketing. But that’s another story…
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For more on Elizabeth Stephens’s science fiction and romance books Population and Saltlands, check out her website at www.booksbyelizabeth.com or follow her on GoodreadsFacebook or Twitter.

The Life of Breath

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Breath is magical. When I’m not working, my mind has been returning to darkly ethereal things (if that’s possible) and this week “breath” kept coming up as well. Breath is important. Besides the obvious, breath is powerful and diverse.

Pranayama. In yoga people practice pranayama, or “The Breath of Life” This yoga technique is the formal practice of controlling breath, or prana, which is our vital life force.  In fact, “pranayama” literally means “to extend vital life force.” There are several different techniques of pranayama, each one with a specific result. Whether to reinforce the parasympathetic system (relax, reduce heart rate, etc.), release fear, or bring energy (breath of fire), breathing in a certain way can do it.  That’s pretty powerful.

It is life giving. CPR (Cardio Pulmonary Resuscitation) is when you to breathe life back into a body where life has recently left. Drowning victims, heart attacks, smoke inhalation from a fire… you name it, breathing into another if they’ve stopped breathing can bring them back and save their lives.

“Just breathe.” When we’re anxious we tend to hold our breath. Being aware of our breath can be very calming and restorative.

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An old wives tale is that you shouldn’t let cat near your newborn baby because the cat will steal their breath.  Cats have a long history of being portrayed as evil-doers, or familiars for witches. Back in the 1700’s when a baby was found dead and a cat was nearby the feline would get the blame.  More likely: SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) or the simple fact of cats like to be “on” something (like my laptop while I’m trying to write) and babies smell like milk.

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Breath changes meaning when it’s whispered. For example, consider these two scenarios:

  1. Evan stands before Carmen. He reaches out and takes her by the shoulders. Tilting his head to the side he asks, “What took you so long?”
  2. Evan holds Carmen by her shoulders and pulls her against him, their bodies so close she can feel his intent. Leaning down he breathes into her, “What took you so long?”

See? Totally different.  Now granted the body language was different, but if you substitute “whisper,” “says,” or “asks” the whole tone changes.

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This week, my reader, I encourage you to be aware of your breath. Breathe in the power, breathe easy, and breathe with intent. I’m going to whisper into my children’s ears when they sleep and see what magic I can work.  Let me know if you’ve ever tried it!

My thoughts are my own, but my pictures are generally found on Pinterest (you can find anything there!). If you like what I write, please share with your friends or someone you think would like it! I’d love it if you follow me on Facebook (Melissa Gale), Instagram (write2unpack), or Twitter (@write2unpack). If you have any topics you think I should talk about, reach out to me at write2unpack@gmail.com. Oh, hey, and if you sign up here to follow me you’ll never miss a post!

The Best Kisses

kissing-1Thank heavens it’s over! Yes, the election. My next invention will be a button you can push, or a lever you can flip, so that once you have voted you no longer have to listen to or watch political commercials. Watching political commercials once you’ve voted is like that Little White Dog across the street who is going at it on the Girl Dog’s shoulder – doesn’t do anything but cause irritation.

With so much of the world in chaos and so much hatred in social media these days, I wanted to bring a little love back. When I think about love the first thing I think about is kissing. I wrote a blog about kissing a little over a year ago (You can check it out here), but “kissing” is so great, and vast, that I thought it deserved more exploration.

Kissing is actually really good for us.  There are amazing health benefits to kissing:

  1. Kissing lowers stress. It decreases cortisol (the “stress” hormone), and increases serotonin (the “wellbeing” hormone) levels. Not only are we less stressed, but our sense of goodness and wellbeing is increased.
  2. Kissing gives us better health. It boosts our immune system and releases antibodies that kill bacteria, not to mention increased saliva flow is great for your teeth. Better health and fewer cavities? Yes please!
  3. Kissing calms us and increases happiness. It releases oxytocin and endorphins. Oxytocin is the “love” hormone and calms us down, and endorphins are famous for the good feelings they provide. I love that feeling when my lover is so happy smiles he through the kiss.

Less stress and more happiness… I could probably stop talking right there and you wouldn’t need any more reasons to go out and kiss your lover, but stopping talking really isn’t like me – so let’s go on.

Now you know why you should kiss, so how to kiss is your next question, right? I’m sure many of you have a “technique” that you’ve learned over the years, or maybe someone actually showed you how, but if you haven’t – I’ve scoured the web and here are some tips I totally agree with:

  1. Smell good. I am definitely a “smell” person. I love it when my lover smells good. It doesn’t have to be cologne, or a certain scent, clean smells are great too. Oh, and make sure your breath smells good too. No one wants to know you had a Reuben for lunch or you just finished your smoke break.
  2. Get close. Seems obvious, but if you want to kiss someone, well, you need to be in their personal space. Don’t linger on the outside, step up close enough so they can smell you. (Tip: please refer to #1)
  3. Be gentle – at least at first. Don’t jam your tongue down your lover’s throat. Remember you’re kissing, not implanting an alien.
  4. Breathe – and let your lover breathe. Be mindful of your breath and your lover’s ability to breathe. Kissing is great, but even better if you’re not being smothered.
  5. “Listen” to your lover. Not just with your ears, but be mindful of your lover’s tempo. Being enthusiastic and assertive can be a good thing, but if you’re oblivious to her pace that enthusiastic kiss may be your one and only.

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Now you know the why and the how, so let’s get to the good part: the where.

Lip kisses are just the beginning. Kissing on the lips is great, but the possibilities of great kisses are endless. My favorite PG-13 locations:

  1. On the neck/back of the neck (Tip: just say “no” to the hickie)
  2. The hollow of the collar bone
  3. Inside of the wrist

Oh the possibilities!

Kissing is good for you.  It’s good for your health, good for your relationship, and good for your lover.

The best kisses? Taking into consideration everything above, for me the best kisses are the ones that are genuine – when I’m kissed with intent. Whether the intent is to arouse, to share love, or to comfort, a genuine kiss is absolutely the best.

The election is finally over, and whether you’re for or against the new POTUS, let’s make the world we live in a good one. Live with love in your heart, kindness in your words, and compassion in your soul. Oh, and be sure to kiss better and more often.

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My thoughts are my own, but my pictures are generally found on Pinterest (you can find anything there!). If you like what I write, please share with your friends or someone you think would like it! I’d love it if you follow me on Facebook (Melissa Gale), Instagram (write2unpack), or Twitter (@write2unpack). If you have any topics you think I should talk about, reach out to me at write2unpack@gmail.com. Oh, hey, and if you sign up here to follow me you’ll never miss a post!